Every relationship faces challenges. Whether you're struggling with communication issues, navigating a difficult transition, recovering from infidelity, or simply feeling disconnected, couples therapy provides a structured, supportive environment to address these concerns and rebuild your bond.
At Hisparadise Therapy, our couples counseling is designed to help you and your partner identify unhealthy patterns, develop effective communication skills, rebuild trust, and rediscover the connection that brought you together.
Our evidence-based approach focuses not just on solving immediate problems but on creating lasting change by addressing the underlying dynamics in your relationship. We work with couples at all stages—from those just starting out to long-term partnerships, from couples in crisis to those simply wanting to strengthen an already good relationship.
At Hisparadise Therapy, we primarily use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)—a well-researched, highly effective approach that has helped thousands of couples create secure, lasting bonds. EFT focuses on identifying and transforming negative interaction patterns and emotional responses that contribute to distress in relationships.
Our approach is grounded in attachment theory, recognizing that we all have fundamental needs for secure connection and that relationship distress occurs when these needs aren't being met. Rather than just teaching communication techniques, we help couples understand the deeper emotional needs driving their interactions.
We also integrate elements of other evidence-based approaches when appropriate, including:
We begin with thorough assessment to understand your relationship history, patterns, and goals. This involves both joint and individual sessions to get a complete picture.
We work to identify and interrupt negative interaction cycles that create distance and conflict, helping you understand the deeper emotions driving these patterns.
You'll learn to express deeper emotions and needs in ways that foster connection, creating new patterns of secure bonding and emotional responsiveness.
We help you solidify new, positive interaction patterns and develop strategies to maintain connection when facing future challenges.
Learn to express needs, listen effectively, and navigate difficult conversations in ways that strengthen rather than damage your connection.
Develop a deeper understanding of each other's inner worlds and create stronger emotional bonds based on vulnerability and trust.
Transform destructive conflict patterns into constructive discussions that lead to mutual understanding and solutions that work for both partners.
Heal from breaches of trust and create a secure foundation for rebuilding confidence in your relationship, whether after infidelity or other injuries.
Gain insights into your own patterns, triggers, and needs, allowing for personal growth that contributes to relationship health.
Develop shared goals and visions for your relationship, ensuring you're growing together rather than apart as life evolves.
Communication breakdowns are among the most common reasons couples seek therapy. When partners can't effectively express their needs or listen to each other, conflict escalates and emotional connection diminishes.
Signs of communication issues include:
Our approach helps couples identify destructive communication patterns and develop new skills to express needs, listen deeply, and navigate differences in ways that strengthen rather than damage the relationship.
Breaches of trust—whether from infidelity, dishonesty, or broken promises—can create deep wounds in a relationship. Rebuilding trust requires more than just apologies; it demands a structured approach to healing and creating new patterns of reliability.
We help couples navigate this challenging process by:
With commitment from both partners, relationships can not only recover from trust breaches but often emerge stronger, with deeper understanding and more secure bonds.
Intimacy encompasses both emotional and physical connection. When couples feel disconnected in either area, relationship satisfaction typically declines. Intimacy issues may develop gradually or appear suddenly during relationship transitions.
Common intimacy concerns include:
Our approach addresses both emotional and physical aspects of intimacy, helping couples understand barriers to connection and develop new ways of relating that foster closeness. For concerns specifically related to sexual intimacy, we offer specialized sex therapy services.
Major life changes can put significant strain on even the strongest relationships. Transitions create stress and often require couples to redefine roles and expectations, which can lead to conflict and disconnection if not navigated effectively.
Common life transitions that impact relationships include:
We help couples communicate effectively during transitions, maintain emotional connection despite stress, and adapt to new circumstances while honoring both individual and relationship needs.
James Adebayo, LMFT specializes in helping couples rebuild connection, navigate challenges, and create more fulfilling relationships. With over 10 years of experience working specifically with couples, James brings warmth, insight, and practical tools to every session.
75-minute couples therapy session
5 sessions (10% discount)
10 sessions (20% discount)
* All packages can be paid in installments. Sliding scale fees may be available based on financial need.
The duration of couples therapy varies depending on your specific situation, goals, and the complexity of the issues you're facing. Most couples attend weekly sessions for 3-6 months, with research suggesting that 12-20 sessions is common for significant improvement.
Some couples with specific, focused concerns may see substantial progress in just 8-10 sessions. Others working through more complex issues like infidelity or long-standing patterns may benefit from longer-term therapy. We'll discuss timeframe expectations during your assessment and regularly review progress together.
This is a common concern. Many people feel hesitant about couples therapy due to misconceptions about what it involves or fears of being blamed. Here are some approaches that may help:
If your partner remains unwilling, individual therapy can still be beneficial to help you develop strategies for your relationship and personal wellbeing. Sometimes when one partner sees positive changes, the other becomes more open to joining the process.
Yes, couples therapy can be valuable even when you're considering ending the relationship. It can serve several important purposes in this situation:
We approach these cases with respect for the difficult decision-making process and without an agenda to keep couples together at all costs. Our goal is to help you make the choice that's healthiest for everyone involved and navigate whatever path you choose with minimal damage.
While individual therapy focuses on one person's internal experiences and personal growth, couples therapy views the relationship itself as the client. The main differences include:
That said, couples therapy does involve some individual work, and we may occasionally recommend individual sessions to address personal concerns that are impacting the relationship but need specialized attention.
Yes, couples therapy is confidential, with the same legal and ethical protections as individual therapy. This means:
The standard limits to confidentiality apply—therapists must report situations involving imminent danger to self or others, suspected abuse of vulnerable populations, or when required by court order.
It's important to note that in couples therapy, there is generally no secret-keeping between partners. Information shared with the therapist individually is usually considered available to discuss in joint sessions if relevant to the therapy goals.
Take the first step toward a more connected, fulfilling partnership. Our compassionate approach helps couples create lasting positive change. Schedule your consultation today.