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Emeka Nwosu
Apr 5, 2025 at 10:00 AM
Self-Care & Body

I haven't slept properly in two months — what actually helps?

I fall asleep easily enough. The problem is staying asleep. I wake up between 2am and 4am almost every night, sometimes two or three times, and by morning I have had six broken hours that feel like four.

I've tried the standard advice. No screens after 10pm, consistent bedtime, no caffeine after 2pm, a cold room. The advice that seems designed for people whose sleep issues are simpler than mine.

I'm not sure whether this is anxiety expressing itself physically, or whether poor sleep is feeding the anxiety, or whether both are true simultaneously. My mind feels foggy most mornings. My patience is shorter than it used to be. My ability to concentrate for long periods has noticeably decreased.

I've talked to a doctor who told me this was stress and gave me no specific guidance. I'm not looking for sleeping pills.

For people who have genuinely improved chronic sleep disruption — what moved things for you?
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The 2-4am wake-up pattern is almost always connected to cortisol and the nervous system, not to sleep hygiene specifically. What finally helped me was addressing the anxiety directly — not through sleep techniques but through therapy that addressed the underlying hyperarousal. The sleep improved when the nervous system got quieter, not when I optimised my bedtime routine.
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Something that actually helped me: when I woke at 3am I stopped lying there fighting to sleep. I got up, sat in a different room with a book (not a phone) until I felt genuinely sleepy, then went back to bed. Counterintuitive but it stopped the bed becoming a place I associated with wakefulness and dread.

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