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Ngozi Ibrahim
Apr 15, 2025 at 8:00 AM
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Nigerian work culture and mental health — the conversation we keep avoiding

We need to talk about this.

The culture that celebrates being the last to leave the office. The manager who thinks shouting is management. The "we are like family here" companies that fire you by text. The expectation that your job owns not just your working hours but your evenings, weekends, and self-respect.

I have worked in three organisations across different sectors. In every one of them, the unspoken rule was: your personal life is your problem, your professional output is our property.

I have watched colleagues break under this. I have very nearly broken under this. The burnout, the anxiety, the depression that nobody names — it sits right at the intersection of work culture and the pressure of just existing in Nigeria right now.

And the worst part is that when people speak up, they are called uncommitted, sensitive, or soft. Asking for a boundary becomes evidence of not being a team player.

I'm curious what others have experienced and how you have navigated this — whether from the employee side, or from a manager trying to do things differently. What does protecting your mental health at work actually look like in this context?
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What you described about "we are like family" — this is one of the most weaponised phrases in Nigerian corporate culture. Family, in that context, means: we expect unlimited sacrifice with no accountability in return. I have said this to a manager once. He told me I clearly didn't understand what loyalty meant. I left three months later.
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I manage a small team now and I actively try to do things differently. I do not message people after hours. I do not celebrate people staying late. I ask about workload before assigning new tasks. Small things, but they come from understanding what it feels like to be on the other side of a manager who sees you as a resource rather than a person.
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What helped me protect myself within a broken system: I became extremely clear about what I was and was not willing to do, quietly. I didn't announce it. I just stopped volunteering unpaid overtime and being available at 10pm. Some people noticed. Nobody said anything. The expectation gradually adjusted.

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