We have been together six years. There are things between us that we genuinely cannot resolve on our own. I know this. I think somewhere he knows this too. But every time I suggest therapy his answer is the same: "We can sort our own problems. I don't need a stranger telling me what to do."
I've approached it from every angle. I've framed it as something we're doing for us, not because something is broken. I've shared articles. I've told him about friends who have benefited from it. Nothing shifts.
And I'm in a difficult place because I feel like I've exhausted what I can do alone. I've been seeing my individual therapist for a year and the progress I make there runs into a wall when I go home because the dynamic doesn't change.
For people who have been in this situation — did anything change their partner's mind? Is there a way to make progress as a couple when only one person is doing the inner work? And honestly — at what point do you accept that the gap between you is one neither person can bridge alone?