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Apr 5, 2026 at 9:15 AM
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My partner keeps telling me I'm "too emotional" — am I overreacting, or is this gaslighting?

Whenever I bring up something that hurt me, the conversation never actually stays on the thing I raised. It shifts immediately to how I\'m "too sensitive", how I "always make everything a big deal", how "nobody can say anything to you without you crying". And I leave those conversations questioning whether I even have the right to feel what I felt.

Last week I cried because he made a sarcastic comment about my cooking in front of his friends. I told him later that it embarrassed me. He laughed and said I was being childish. I sat with that for three days wondering if he was right. Then I started Googling.

The word "gaslighting" kept coming up. I don\'t want to use that word loosely — I know it means something specific and serious. But some of what I read felt painfully familiar: making you doubt your own perception, making you feel that your emotional reactions are the problem rather than the behaviour that caused them. Has anyone been in a situation like this? Was it gaslighting, or am I genuinely just too emotional? I genuinely don\'t know anymore.
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The fact that you're questioning your own perception is itself significant. Healthy relationships don't routinely leave you wondering if your feelings are valid. That questioning is worth paying attention to — not as a verdict, but as information.
B
I was in something similar for two years. What helped me get clarity was writing down incidents as they happened — not to build a case but to have a record outside of my own memory, which I had started to distrust. Seeing the pattern on paper was different from feeling it in the moment.
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You're not too emotional. You're emotional enough to notice that something is wrong, and that instinct is valuable. Don't let someone else's discomfort with your feelings convince you that your feelings are the problem.
H
We want to gently validate what you're feeling here. Gaslighting is a specific pattern where someone causes you to doubt your own perception over time — and the fact that you're doubting yourself this much is worth taking seriously. Our therapists work with relationship dynamics exactly like this one. A consultation can give you a space to untangle things with someone who has no stake in the outcome.

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