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Adaeze Okeke
Apr 14, 2026 at 9:15 AM
Personal Growth

Imposter syndrome has followed me through every promotion — I'm exhausted of waiting for it to stop

I have a first class degree, two postgraduate qualifications, and a management role I earned through visible, measurable results. And still, before every major meeting, every presentation, every performance review, the same voice shows up: you are a fraud, and today is the day they figure it out.

Imposter syndrome is not new to me — I\'ve known the word and the concept for years. But knowing the name of something doesn\'t reduce its power. I can sit in a meeting, know with full certainty that I am the most technically qualified person in the room, and still feel like an imposter. The evidence doesn\'t touch the feeling. The feeling operates in a separate jurisdiction.

What I\'ve tried: keeping a folder of positive feedback, which helps briefly. Therapy, which has helped significantly but not completely. Reading about how common imposter syndrome is among high-achievers, which gives me company in the misery but not exit from it. Mentorship relationships where people I respected admitted they felt the same — this one moved the needle more than most.

My question is a genuine one: has anyone actually resolved their imposter syndrome, or is the realistic goal just to manage it? And if you\'ve managed it — what does that look like in practice? I am genuinely curious whether there is a version of myself that doesn\'t need external validation to feel legitimate.
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To your question about whether anyone has actually resolved it — I don't think resolution is the right frame. The people I know who have made peace with it haven't made it disappear. They've changed their relationship with it. It's there, but it no longer has veto power over their choices.
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The mentor disclosure point moved the needle for me more than anything else too. There is something very specific about hearing someone you consider genuinely excellent say 'I feel exactly what you're describing' — it changes the evidence set your imposter syndrome is working with.
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Imposter syndrome is disproportionately prevalent among high-achievers, first-generation professionals, and people from backgrounds underrepresented in their field — which means it's often doing something more specific than generic self-doubt. Understanding what it's protecting you from can be useful work. This is something we work through in our sessions regularly.

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